Taking Responsibility Puts You in BOSS Mode
Do you feel like a dog with its tail between its legs when it’s time to hold yourself accountable? Perhaps you fidget when it becomes clear that you had a role in a messy situation? Do you retreat, leaving a bridge burnt to the ground, or do you take responsibility? According to a TIME piece (by Alexandra Sifferlin titled Blame Game: Why we Hate Feeling Guilty), when our actions cause adverse consequences, we feel less responsible for those actions. Research from the Institute of Cognitive Neuroscience, (published in the journal Current Biology), shows that this response isn’t just about wanting to escape blame. We don’t think the result is our fault. Many of us are walking around delusional about our screw-ups, but in this post, you’ll see three reasons why taking responsibility is a BOSS move.
Taking Responsibility Increases Your Authority
The first reason to take responsibility will resonate if you’ve ever felt the hairs on the back of your neck stand when a teacher or professor announced: “group project.” What have you learned about people during these types of dynamics? From grade school, through the workplace, you know there’s always someone who dodges responsibility. Not only that, they won’t even have the humility to apologize or make up for it. Nobody likes or wants to associate with that person.
You don’t need to be the smartest person in the room when you’re the person they can trust. You don’t have to be the most resourceful person in the room either, however, your authority sky-rockets, (even if you screw up). How can that be?
If you think about it, authority figures (even when they abuse their power), are, for the most part, trusted. There’s a trust you earn from those around you, where even if you don’t know the answer, or have the means, you’ll find it. Your friends and colleagues know that you can be trusted to pull your weight. Even in the light of a slip-up, they believe that you’ll acknowledge your gaff, and quickly rectify it. People associate a person who has exemplary self-accountability with a person who takes pride in what they do, as well as in who they are. You’ll be the go-to person when you take responsibility for your actions.
Taking Responsibility Attracts Others With High Emotional Intelligence
The second reason why you should take responsibility for your mistakes is that accountability is an essential part of a trust, reciprocity, and in maintaining balanced relationships. To the concept that you attract what you put out, taking responsibility for your actions enables trusting others more easily. Coincidentally, trustworthy people will be easier to come by.
Being emotionally intelligent enough to know when to say “I’m sorry,” awakens your ability to identify and welcome those on your level, as well as keep those who fall short at a distance. Operating on an increased level of emotional intelligence, you lose patience for those who prefer to point fingers. Essentially you send out the right vibes and clear your space for those on your level.
Take Responsibility for Your Mistakes, to Take Your Control Back
The third and the most BOSS reason you should take responsibility for your mistakes is that in doing so, you gain power and control back into your own hands.
For example, you can lament that “getting cheated on is inevitable.” You can stay in your comfort zone of predictable outcomes, attracting cheaters. The BOSS move of taking responsibility to understand and address how you contribute to situations is an acknowledgment that the remedy for it is in your hands as well. If you embrace stepping up and taking responsibility for a wrong, the next step of correcting it becomes second nature. The fact that you’re in control of how, and when a wrong gets rectified, (rather than blaming and thus relying on someone else for the fix), is true empowerment. You can get the results you want, without waiting on fate, circumstances, or luck to change. It’s in your hands.
In conclusion, taking responsibility for your actions is a BOSS move with enormous consequences. Boosting your authority, attracting others with increased emotional intelligence, and taking your control back are three great reasons to hold yourself accountable.
How do you feel when dealing with those who dodge responsibility?