The Perfect Backdrop, For Falling in Love With Yourself
There’s nothing like a change in seasons, to stimulate the desire for positive life changes. Fall is my favorite season for so many reasons. The sun still warms your skin during the days, (which are still long enough to enjoy). Fall clothing and decor, offer colors and textures, as rich and vast as the changing foliage. Home feels a bit cozier, inviting more frequent opportunities for quiet reflection. In fact, I can’t think of a better time of year to fall in love with yourself, than Fall. These are 3 ways you can fall in love with yourself, this Fall.
1st Way to Fall in Love With Yourself, This Fall.
A practice that has changed my mindset, (and life), is speaking to myself in a deliberate, honest, but kind manner. In my reflective journaling, patterns of abusive self-talk, (mimicking the cruelty of toxic relationships from my past), became obvious. The patterns of the self-talk of those close to me, also display similar patterns, forcing me to take action, advocating for my own positive self-talk, and fulfillment.
What exactly does cultivating positive self-talk look like? Great question. For me personally, it’s speaking deliberate, positive daily affirmations, out loud, looking myself in the eye. I always thought the idea of affirmations was cheesy, until I actually began having my 4 and 6-year-old do them before school. Seeing them light up, taking on a positive, motivated energy, convinced me that the only thing cheesy, was my fixed mindset toward the effectiveness of affirmations. Because eye contact has been tricky for me, (coming from a past of abusive relationships), I decided to up the intensity, looking myself straight in the eye. We always hear how important it is to look others in the eye when we speak to them, so why would we deny ourselves that same respect and attention? Find or create an uplifting affirmation, (that resonates with you), and recite it, looking yourself in the eye. This also creates impactful self-awareness.
2nd Way to Fall in Love With Yourself, This Fall.
Something that took me over a decade, and 2 children to do, was clearing my closet. I don’t just mean clear my closet. This was beyond your average cleaning/organizing. I decided to accept and love, the body I currently had, (as I worked on the body I wanted). That meant getting rid of the old clothes, I’d often squeeze half a thigh into, as a measure of my progress, (actually my worthiness).
I decided that I deserved to look, and feel sexy at every stage of my life, and weight loss journey. You can read more about how I finally ditched that stale energy, and got my sexy back, in this post. If you’re struggling to fall in love with your body, make the decision to quit clothing and sizes that accentuate your insecurities, and start investing in clothing that loves, and compliments the body you have now.
3rd Way to Fall in Love With Yourself This Fall.
Have you ever looked at a beautiful bunch of vibrant Fall leaves, and started nitpicking at their flaws? I didn’t think so. Sure, they may be on the ground, having been stomped on, driven over, and muddied up a bit. That doesn’t stop us from admiring their beauty. We still notice the brilliance of each individual leaf, (holes, and rips aside).
Living in a world that places high value on perfection, (and also makes it easier to give the impression of perfection), this is the perfect time to treat ourselves with the same forgiveness we treat our beautiful Fall leaves. So what, you’ve had some experiences that have left you a little muddied, and torn in certain places. That doesn’t take away from your brilliance. It doesn’t make you less worthy of being noticed and admired. Fall in love with those battle scars. Celebrate what makes you different and imperfect. You have the same ability of Fall leaves, to stun and create wonder, scars showing and all.
By being deliberate and positive in how you speak to yourself, dressing yourself in clothing that adores the body you have now, and celebrating what makes you different, (rather than perfect), you’ll set yourself up for true romance with yourself this Fall.